Approximately 40% of Black women report coercive contact of a sexual nature by age 18. Maybe you’ve stumbled here because you remain unconvinced that Black women are the worst. I’m here to give you 5 more reasons why it just might be time to call Becky with the good hair. No one should be surprised to read the title of this article. It’s something Black women hear often—and from a variety of sources.
Hell, I even hired a plus-size dating coach to assist me in my quest for love, who felt that my image was too casual and recommended some clothing pieces that I would never wear. Despite disagreeing with her tastes, having this ‘professional opinion’ only fuelled my desire to change my virtual image. With it always came the familiar feelings of being unwanted and incapable of being in love.
So let’s at least be honest about that. Obese women are lazy, overeating, and disgusting looking. They age faster, have more health issues, and tend to be self centered. This devaluing of Black women’s bodies can present major issues for Black women dating outside their race. One-sided Secret Relationship Syndrome.
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She maybe a good singer but probably definitely no way considered to be gorgeous in the looks department. Fat people don’t deserve the same rights as humans. It’s true that the medical issues our healthcare system is so burdened with are 85% diet related, caused by obesity, therefor, preventable. It’s true that they do it to themselves, and they could have prevented it by not eating enough to get fat. At first I was getting ready to blast you for just ragging on fat people, but I did read the whole thing, and you have several valid points that I’ve never actually see put all in one place.
If being fat was so great, fat women would date fat men. Some will, most will get on twitter and whine about fat privilege and complain that guys with gym bodies won’t date them. Just be honest with yourself……..LOSE the weight and you WILL be happier about yourself and you WILL find more good relationships and you WILL be healthier throughout your life. It is up to YOU to do the work and make the effort to make the change. Don’t play the victim and blame others for ANY issues in your life….,.,,,,,Make the change and be in charge of your life. Imagine if you’d die or leave her, than she would have to look for another guy with fat fetish because no regular men like obese women.
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For a while, I concluded I was “not that interesting,” a line I subsequently used as my biography on social media. Yes, men need to learn how to embrace the Divine Masculine qualities that allow them to feel strong and, at the same time, vulnerable, just as women need to learn how to embrace the Divine Feminine. But masculinity can be a cage our culture imprisons men in. Then we shame them for being armored up in the prisons we helped them make. Greater competition brings out some of the worst behavior in both men and women when it comes to the qualities that sustain healthy, satisfying relationships. The first boy who showed interest in me kept our relationship extremely private, ultimately lying to everyone that he’d ever been interested or attracted to me.
Systemic racism and white supremacy have played a big role in labeling black women as “undesirable.” As a teenager, she mostly dated people who weren’t Black, but that never presented any issues. “My attraction kind of was towards people outside of my race, because that’s who I was surrounded by,” the now 27-year-old TV producer from Toronto, Canada recalls. The constant fetishisation of black, fat women is degrading and humiliating at best.
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They ignore it and just rant on the person who stated those facts. It’s true that you cannot get fat, under any circumstances, even medical or genetic ones, unless you eat enough to get fat. 3) Being fat shows free Gays Tryst a person is incapable of self control and that they are lazy. My wife has gotten fatter and fatter and I enjoy her that way. She’s happy to be able to enjoy all the food she wants, so it’s a win-win.
I grew tired of being referred to as a ‘beautiful, chocolate goddess’ or being reminded that a guy ‘loves BBWs’ followed by several crude and sexual comments and epithets, bestowed on me without my consent. To make matters worse, the times that I have matched and connected with potential partners, it’s always riddled with inappropriate comments about my body or blatant fetishisation of my skin. But some trans women – like me – do want to be with men who know how to do the thing, and do it well.
It’s something has remained unspoken, yet incredibly real, between us, as it does between so many trans women and the men they date. Sharing feelings of shame can also have benefit, though it requires vulnerability. Shame is common, and learning people you admire and care for experience similar feelings can help you feel less alone. It may even prompt you to reconsider some of those long-held negative beliefs about yourself. People living with toxic shame often end up in toxic or troubled relationships.
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I was in shape and very active and somehow she just kept getting bigger and bigger and if I dared bring her weight up all I got was crying and locking herself in the bathroom. So I dumped and hid all my assets and filed for divorced, now I have a gorgeous “dime” piece. Shes in salary management makes excellent money and I show her off to everyone, we both are very active and are complimented on it daily. Call it shallow, call it cruel, I call it reality you only live once and im not gonna let someones unhappiness wear we down forever. And yes, generally all Males of a healthy weight, who look okay, and are fit that do not have fetishes will not go for heavy set women. It’s how our minds are wired to be, if you are not attractive to the general image- healthy weight, good physical features and a smile on your face, we are designed to look elsewhere for it.
This is a hard thing to swallow but if that S.B.W. loves you every intention comes from the heart which is a place of love it’s not to hurt you! Initially it may hurt but knowing she’s not trying to hurt you is the key to trust someone with your emotions. The day of showing our representative must die! Show her from the door who you really are, and be honest about your intentions no matter what they my be. A Strong Black Woman (S.B.W.) will uncover it in a short amount of time anyway so be yourself. Let her know you have standards also…
Starving yourself, taking supplements, wearing right belts and having poor exercise and a sedentary lifestyle will not get you to loose that weight. Oh wow, this is incredibly offensive! I cannot believe how antiquated and pig-like some peoples’ thinking is still. I feel bad for the men who think like this. They are never going to be truly happy. So, they have to deal.with the social stigma of their bad habits and for some reason when it comes to being overweight, the fatties seek to play like it’s the person who rejected them who has done something bad.